THE cliche of the frigid wife who doesn’t want sex has been replaced by a new reality — women who are married or in a committed relationship want to be having more sex. So how does a woman in love bring the passion back into her relationship? According to Dr. Phill McGraw, a renowned sociologist: “Figuring out what you can do differently is the most efficient way to get the sex life you want.” He,along with some experts,then proceed to list some moves that will leave your man begging for mercy tonight and every night thereafter. And what better time than the New Year to start? Here in a nutshells is what they suggested: First, do a little thinking: If you want your sex life to improve, start by diagnosing the problem. Examine your life: Are you so busy that it’s impossible for the two of you to be sexually intimate on a regular basis? Have you gotten out of the habit because sex is incompatible with all your other obligations? Days turn into weeks and weeks turn into months, and before you know it you can’t remember the last time you made love. Sex is a pattern, and unless it happens on an ongoing basis, other things will crowd it. Use it or lose it.